Enjoy being single! ⁣
But also don’t you want a relationship. ⁣
But you know - don’t want one too much because if you want a relationship too much that’s wrong and you’re desperate, clingy, and unhealthy. Maybe you should talk to someone.⁣
You need to love yourself more and do more self-care. ⁣
But also make sure that when you’re dating that you don’t settle and you find the right partner. ⁣
And also don’t ignore those red flags. ⁣
Beware of narcissists!⁣
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Whewwwww! It’s wild out there folks!⁣
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I’m never not surprised by the lack of humanity we bring to dating, love and relationships. We ignore single people’s struggle and instead superimpose a highly intellectual lens lacking in emotion and compassion. This exacerbates the major loneliness that often defines what it means to be alone. ⁣
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For all you single people out there - i fucking see you - I feel what you feel. It’s hard. And it’s ok if it’s hard. ⁣
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There is a new trend that being single should be this shiny gold prize but for many people it isn’t. For many people it isn’t a cartoon of independence or self-empowerment. ⁣
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The way we approach love and dating reflects larger issues in how we understand relationships. We’ve over-intellectualized it all. Stop. Being single does not require an evaluation. It requires understanding, honoring, and compassion. ⁣
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 Understand that this post is speaking to the people specifically experiencing what I’ve written about. It does not apply to everyone.  So if you’re loving being single - I so love that for you and think it’s wonderful but this probably isn’t a post written for you. ⁣
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