Enjoy being single!
But also don’t you want a relationship.
But you know - don’t want one too much because if you want a relationship too much that’s wrong and you’re desperate, clingy, and unhealthy. Maybe you should talk to someone.
You need to love yourself more and do more self-care.
But also make sure that when you’re dating that you don’t settle and you find the right partner.
And also don’t ignore those red flags.
Beware of narcissists!
Whewwwww! It’s wild out there folks!
I’m never not surprised by the lack of humanity we bring to dating, love and relationships. We ignore single people’s struggle and instead superimpose a highly intellectual lens lacking in emotion and compassion. This exacerbates the major loneliness that often defines what it means to be alone.
For all you single people out there - i fucking see you - I feel what you feel. It’s hard. And it’s ok if it’s hard.
There is a new trend that being single should be this shiny gold prize but for many people it isn’t. For many people it isn’t a cartoon of independence or self-empowerment.
The way we approach love and dating reflects larger issues in how we understand relationships. We’ve over-intellectualized it all. Stop. Being single does not require an evaluation. It requires understanding, honoring, and compassion.
Understand that this post is speaking to the people specifically experiencing what I’ve written about. It does not apply to everyone. So if you’re loving being single - I so love that for you and think it’s wonderful but this probably isn’t a post written for you.
Oct 24, 2022